Proverbs 3:11-12

A Good Pain



“My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor detest His correction; For whom the Lord loves He corrects, just as a father the son in whom he delights.” Proverbs 3:11-12



The idea of discipline and love being in the same sentence is a hard concept to swallow. Love is gushy and warm, while discipline stirs up thoughts of pain or losing something.

We think that love should always feel good and that discipline only produces pain, and we wonder how can pain be good for anybody. The truth is, pain can be very good. You see, pain is an indicator that things need to change.

Just as our body uses pain to warn us of trouble, God does as well. He sees things we cannot see and He knows things we cannot know. It is because of this that He disciplines us out of love.

When we were small, we ran out into the street only to hear our parents scream for us to get out of it at once. For some the scream was enough, but for others the curiosity of the street was so strong that it took something more to see their error. It took pain. Without that reminder, the street could have been our destruction. Our parent’s scream-discipline was love to us in the form of pain. A warning sign that we were headed for a bad day.

Shouldn’t we deal with spiritual and emotional pain the same way we deal with the physical? When hurt, we immediately try to do what it takes to get rid of the cause for pain. When emotionally or spiritually damaged though, we blame God or say “why me?” 

Discipline is God’s warning us and working on our problems. In your life right now, what is God saying to you? Are you going to become angry and blame Him, or embrace the fact that He loves you, and begin to work to fix the issues you are currently dealing with?



God, reveal to me the things in my life that You want to change. Thank You for love in the form of discipline, and help me learn to embrace it.