Get Over Yourself
“. . . the Lord’s anger burned against Moses, . . .” Exodus 4:14
God finds Moses in Midian and calls him to fill the role as redeemer of a nation. God instructs him to return to Egypt. At first, Moses is reluctant to go, spouting off reasons for not going, a list of his personal limitations. God didn’t rebuke Moses’ reluctance or his sense of inadequacy. Moses says to God “please send someone else to do the job.” At first, Moses was understandably unsure of himself.
But when God promised to be with him and Moses still protested his personal weakness, what Moses was really saying “God, I can’t do it – and I don’t believe You can either.” When Moses challenged God’s adequacy to be his accompanying strength, that’s when the Lord burned with anger. God was ticked off, and who could blame Him? What seemed like a humble need to be reassured was really just plain ole self-pity.
Self-pity is the savagery of emotions; others are disgusted by it, including God. It’s the one emotion that lives up to its name: it’s something reserved for the self. Moses had spent years feeling sorry for himself. Self-pity always grows in isolation. Self-pity is what compels us to say “Oh, I can’t do this.” Why is self-pity so annoying?
Because we remember our baby days when we used injury as an opportunity to get extra affection from our parents, self-pity says “sad for me, I’m hurt and you need to do something about it.” Self-pity is dangerous for an adult to harbor.
Self-pity signals a lack of accountability for one’s life, it turns into victimhood. A victim mentality believes everyone has done them wrong and blames everybody else, but takes no responsibility themselves.
This is the quicksand of life, ever pulling us down. It can last for years, sometimes a lifetime. God had spoken, promising to be with Moses every step of the way. It was now up to Moses to depend on God to be his strength and get on with the task.
Maybe you don’t have the job you want, maybe you should be married by now, maybe your spouse wasn’t your first choice, maybe you deserve to be paid more in your career, maybe your kids aren’t acting the way you think they should. One thing is for sure. Self-pity is short-circuited by taking responsibility for what is in front of you. Stop asking God to send someone else to do what you are called to do. Get up, get moving before life moves on without you.
Where has self-pity set in in your life?